Almost every year, I start off with a ton of new years resolutions that I think will make me happier. Some I have been able to keep and some, well let’s just say I’ve kept them for a month or so and then moved on. Right before I headed to California the first time, my mom gave me a book called “The Happiness Project” by Gretchen Rubin and it completely changed the way I look at resolutions and goals. Instead of setting new years resolutions, you set one goal each month and focus on that. It could be anything from increasing your energy levels to working on relationships etc. Don’t get me wrong, I still set out some resolutions that seem super important in January and not so much in March or June, but that’s ok and overall it’s been a better solution for me.
Since then, I’ve been following Gretchen Rubin’s work and a while back, she started a podcast with her sister, Elizabeth Craft. It’s called Happier and I love it! They talk about how to become and live happier in your every day life, set habits according to your personality type and tips & tricks from research or their own experience. Gretchen is the typical type A person, while Elizabeth is a creative night owl. Getting the two very different perspectives mixed in with some guest interviews and caller questions makes it an interesting listen. I’ve started doing 30 min walks at night to make sure I reach my Fitbit step goals every day and listening to podcasts while walking is a great combination activity. I don’t like to just walk by myself because that makes it feel more like a chore instead of something I enjoy. Same thing with just sitting still and listen to a podcast. Way to restless for that, but combining the two is the perfect balance.
Picture from Gretchenrubin.com
Gretchen gave out another book called Better than Before last year which shares more in depth about creating and managing habits long-term. I finished it in two days on a trip to Vegas and loved it! She talks about the four tendencies of how you respond to expectations and it’s really interesting. The four tendencies are:
Someone who is a typical type A person and will do what needs to be done and don’t like to break the rules.
Needs to know or understand the reasoning behind something before they will do it. Weather something is fair is also important to questioners. Injustice or pointless tasks is their worst nightmare.
Outer accountability is key for obligers. If someone else is expecting them to be there or complete a task it will be done, but they struggle more with inner expectations.
A rebel will basically do exactly as they please and potentially the opposite of what someone tells them to do just because they can.
Based on what I have read and heard on the podcast, I think I am a questioner! My number one question as a kid was “why?” or “why not?” and I am pretty sure I drove my parents crazy. I still work better if I understand the reasoning behind things or know why I have to complete certain tasks. That’s probably why I am always good at going to the gym four times a week for a long time and then as soon as I am in pretty good shape, I don’t see the point anymore and stop going!? I usually have analysis paralysis when booking travel because I am worried I haven’t explored ALL the options? But then again, all the questions makes me super curious and creative! Just remember, if you want me to do something, explain why :)
I actually had the chance to meet Gretchen Rubin and Elizabeth Craft at their live podcast event at the Brava theatre here in San Francisco back in January and as usual, I fan-girled pretty hard. Horrible picture, but had to be documented.
Have you ever read any of Gretchen’s books? Or listened to the podcast? I highly recommend it!
Until Next Time, Hadet på Badet!
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